First of all, we will attempt to answer that question by looking at what a wife material is not. Sometimes, you find out what something is by studying what it is not.
You are not a wife material when:
1. You Are Lazy
When you read through who a virtuous woman is in the scriptures, you will know that laziness is not part of the virtue being described there. If you have doubts, go through Proverbs 31: 10 – 31. Listen to me, if you are lazy, you need to start working on that now, so that it will not affect your marriage eventually after marriage. A good wife should now how to cook. A good wife is a homemaker. Women are usually multipliers. Start to discipline yourself and learn the basic things.
It is not exactly like a wife should become the house help, and I am not advocating that the husband should do nothing at home. It’s so simple, a wife should not be lazy. How do you know you are lazy? Somebody would have told you! If your mum or dad has ever told you that you are lazy, it is true! Don’t argue, just say mum, how can I make adjustments? Be humble! Don’t wait for your husband to confirm that!
2. You Are Sleeping Around
You are not a wife material when you are still sleeping around and you are generous with your body! It is a direct violation of God’s way of doing things and such lifestyle will bring difficulties into your life. The way of the transgressor is hard! A wife material is not into “aristo!”
3. You Are Spiritually Irresponsible
A wife material should develop her self spiritually. You need that spiritual maturity to help you balance your role as a wife-to-be, mother-to-be and sometimes combining that with a vibrant career.
4. You Are Not Accountable
Accountability is powerful. As a young lady, who are your mentors? Who are you accountable to? Who can you call on phone when you have issues and you will get good counsel? Are you a tither? Do you honour God with your time and service? Are you serving in your local assembly?
5. You Are Selfish
A wife material is selfless. You don’t consider yourself alone! Marriage is about being selfless. Two people who are married and are selfish will soon crash their marriage. Marriage can only survive when the two people involved love themselves genuinely and are not selfish.
6. You Are Already Living With Him
You are not a wife material by living in his house when you are not yet married.
One of the marks of being a wife material is to respect your body and honour God with it. But when you are already involved in jeru trap repeatedly and without repentance, you are not really honouring your body! Don’t travel over to meet him where he is and then spend days with him. If you do that, you will be sowing wrong seeds into that relationship and you are not going to have God’s support and favour doing that.
What if you are already doing that? Park out of his house! You are not married!
What if I park out and he leaves me? Then he is not your husband!
Your husband will be willing to wait for you. That is how you carve some respect for yourself.
When you look at the concept of a “wife” in the scriptures, it says, you are a help meet for him. Your entrance into his life translates into favour for the family!
Are you preparing yourself in that regard? You see God is not an author of confusion, so He will not bring into your life what you are not ready for! Are you really ready for marriage? Do you love yourself? Are you really single in the sense of it? Have you gone past that stage where you are looking for someone to complete you?
It is a wife material that would be found. Not any other thing, so my challenge to ladies this morning is, are you a wife material?
I pray for you this morning, that God will open your eyes the more and help you to be better prepared, and to be found by your husband! You will be found in Jesus name! I curse every operations of the Spirit of delay in your life and declare that God’s counsel over your life will stand in Jesus name!