Men who are plagued by premature ejaculation are sometimes reluctant to talk about it. They may consider it a problem that somehow makes them less than “a real man.” The truth is that a huge number of men suffer from this malady and that there are ways to stop it and regain an active and satisfactory sex life.
Sometimes the problem can be found with the PC (Pubococcygeus) muscles near the prostate gland. These muscles control the ejaculation process and if they lose control, they’ve probably lost elasticity and strength. To regain the strength and make the PC muscles more flexible, exercise them several times a day by using any or all of the methods that can be found online or in books.
Anxiety or stress can also cause the muscles to tense and to force a more rapid ejaculation during sexual intercourse. There are several ways to stop stress-induced premature ejaculation. Taking time to become aroused without causing ejaculation is one way to ensure that the sexual act isn’t finished before it even begins. Most women enjoy the pleasure they receive from foreplay and men can also learn to enjoy it.
Taking deep breaths during love-making can also prolong ejaculation. Deep breaths act as a relaxing element and can help you remain sensitive, but in control. Before sexual arousal, engage your partner in a full-body massage that includes the genital area. Take turns massaging each other and exploring all body parts – taking note which areas promote the most arousal. Just take your time and don’t rush to the act of intercourse.
Poor health or psychological problems (such as feelings of inadequacy) can also be causes for a man to experience premature ejaculation. He may feel tension about ejaculating too soon –before his partner is satisfied – and angry with himself because he lost control. The way to counteract this difficulty is for the man to become more familiar with his body and this may include various forms of therapy, such as Tantric Sex.
Tantric sex includes a “stop and start” technique that’s practiced by stopping sexual arousal just at the point of ejaculation and then starting again, repeating a few times during intercourse. Breathing exercises are also a part of practicing tantric sex to totally relax the body.
Communication with your sex partner is crucial to ending premature ejaculation problems. Learning to guide your partner during sex by expressing what you’re feeling at the moment can heighten pleasure for both of you.