Have you ever experienced times when you keep something somewhere and yet you can't remember that you kept it there while you keep looking for it later? Am sure then you will keep asking yourself where did i put it, I couldn't have lost it etc., and yet all it takes is just to think carefully and look deeply and you will be surprised that its right in front of you, So is Life in different aspects.
We ask ourselves questions like; how do I do this, how do I go about this, what am I going to do etc.; but do you know that there are times some of the answers to these questions are sitting right in front of you and yet you don't take notice of it. Let me tell you a short story; A guy while studying in University had a female friend who was so close to him that everyone assumed they were dating but to the guy she was only a friend, the girl always had his back both good and bad times until they passed out of university after which they parted ways.
Years later after getting a job, the guy decided to settle down and get married but there was no lady worthy of him, the search continued for a year or two until fate brought him and the lady (his friend in school) back together, that was when he realized all he had been looking for all this years was always in front of him and he never realized it.
He got married to the lady and they lived happily ever after .
So you see my friend, There are times that answers to your questions are sitting right in front of you, all it takes is just for you to LOOK carefully with patience and SEE.