The love of money is said to be the root of all evil. Why love money more than that man or woman you profess to love and want to spend the rest of your life with? I have observed in our world today that the rat race of I want to become this, I want to achieve this and that is rooted in the crave for self actualization and personal pride. Which in many cases are driven by the husbands or wives of such individuals. Money is to serve you and not the other way round. Money is to serve the purpose that your marriage is built to fulfill and not the other way round. Many women have stopped believing in the dreams and vision of their husband because of money and other things they believe money will achieve for their self actualization goal.
Many husbands have lost leadership because of lack of money, which only means that the home has lost direction, vision and focus because of the drive of the wife to actualize her selfish ambition. Wives have driven their husbands to corrupt practices and other vices because of the love of money. The man that you have pushed out to get money by all means, will also obtain other things, including sexual satisfaction by all means.
Money should be seen in marriage in the proper perspective. I am not advocating lassiez a faire attitude, but to call our consciousness to this truth, that the love of money will root out a lot of evils, which includes divorce in your home - if you do not have the correct perception of the role of money in your marriage. Every man and woman should be supportive in their home. By this I mean, especially for the wives, believe in your husband's dreams, goals and aspirations. What is not enough today, it will only take time, patience and perseverance, it will become more than enough.
Marriage is an institution that is delicate in all respects, and the parties involved have their role and responsibilities which are spelt out and must be adhered to, for peace and proper functionality of the Union in all respects.
Many unions have hit the rocks on the altar of money, which if seen in the proper perspective, would have survived that storm. Every storm in life, comes to test the stability of our building, which comprises of the materials and resources deployed in building. These materials and resources are our perceptions, principles, practices and policies, which will be tested to see if our union can stand the test of the storms, which results to the test of time.
Many marriages have not been able to stand the test of time because the perceptions, principles , practices and policies used in building them are substandard and inferior in nature, which makes them wrong and unstable in nature.
The purpose of examining these issues one after the other in these 20 days series, is for us to examine where we have failed and are failing, so we can stop and fix them, so that our union will not join the statistics of failed marriages.
Till be talk next.....ruminate on these words and read the next article on communication.